And suddenly there was some form of calmness in my head. While the whole world came to a stoodstill, I found a new amount of headspace and motivation. In daily life I always have to find the balance between sensory stimuli and rest. I can be a very bubble extravert person but I do need my alone time at home. Sometimes people don’t seem to understand this very well. I have always thought the desire for stimuli versus the need to have downtime is the factor in which people’s characters differ the most.
Don’t get me wrong, I miss cuddling my friends, massages, and being literally close to others these weeks, but the lack of pressure from all sides definitely makes me a better and a more focussed worker, so that way this crisis helps me a lot! On a daily basis we usually deal with so many appointments, messages, events, birthdays, holiday planning, expectations, crowds of people we meet or are supposed to meet, that sometimes it can just get too much, and even kind of paralyze me in getting anything done at all.
Probably the reason why living in a cottage in the middle of nowhere worked well for me and still appeals to me so much!
I have thought about it often and my own way is probably a sensitive way to react to stimuli, so wonder who else experiences this period the same? I hope you’re also finding more creativity, headspace and motivation of course! Keep well everyone!
Wouldn’t it be interesting to see the world from someone else’s perspective for just one day! Have you ever done the Meyer-Briggs personality test? I’m one of the visionary type of people (ENFP), which means that my doing is driven by ideas and inner values. I really need to feel the love for a project to be able to get anything done. But once I do…. Inspiration can fullfill me that much that it makes me feel in love! And the other way around aswell….*sighs*….
In my experience people differ the most in the amount of “me time” they need. Some people need thrills all the time, and some people love spending time on their own.
Even though I love my thrills as a performer/entertainer, I’m definitely of the last category. I am a real country girl. I was born and raised in a smaller village and I didn’t move to The Hague till I was 11. One of the things I love about the countryside is just the amount of space and quietness it gives to think. My head is always so full of ideas and impulses that I need time to sort them. When I was a kid my parents even came up with an abbrevation for the Dutch words ‘time to herself’.
Probably one of the reasons I left my lawyer job at the time to escape The Hague to move to a farm in the wild west of Ireland! Wouldn’t that be boring? Not with a head like mine haha!
So which type are you? Are you self entertaining or do you prefer being entertained? Do you get restless of the idea of doing nothing for a weekend or would you just love it? Let me know!
Cycling to work everyday in my work suit in busy The Hague traffic at 8 am, meeting the same civil servants at the same traffic lights every morning, very much like the Groundhog Day movie, I thought I wanted a change. Well it wasn’t only a thought, it was also my body screaming for a break. Stress can really get into one’s system, especially if you experience sensory impulses intensely. I think no money is ever worth endangering one’s health.
Anyway, so here I was in the middle of nowhere in the North West of Ireland, with only a wooden stove to heat the house, no tap drinking water, electricity that often went when there were power cuts. And a lot of silence…. Just a house, nature, birds and wild deer in the garden. The quietness was so omnipresent that it felt I was in a different world, and that the real world with the traffic jams didn’t even really exist and certainly couldn’t be important if it did! What wás important here was to collect firewood and water from a well higherup in the mountains. There was a bus once a week to a nearby town in 20 minutes distance. And I actually met one of my best friends on it.
I started focussing on baking breads every morning, pizza’s, cakes, doing the household, volunteering in an animal sanctuary, making music with the locals, meeting some very talented people in the area. All of this felt so grounding and healing. There was plenty of time in a day, no rush to do anything, no appointments in my agenda. Not even internet in the house, so I had to walk down the road to receive messages.
And I loved it…
Back in Holland I still love spending time in the house or nature just by myself to load up on energy. Are you one of these sensitive people too? How do you step out of the 21st century rat race now and then?
What do you want to become when you grow up? This question had been haunting me for many years. The ‘problem’ started with the situation pictured below. This seems very luxurious but it’s not as simple as that. I went to school at 5 years old being able to read, and graduated at 17, not having a clue what I wanted to do.
Was I born a musician? Ha! See the grades above! I do love learning, all subjects really, from maths and science to languages and music. School and studying (European Law & Language Studies, graduating in Dutch Law) allowed me plenty of time for hobby’s and other interests.
But then…work life started. This came as surprisingly huge challenge for me. Not being fully in charge of my own work load caused me stress and I was missing time for my other passions. After working as a lawyer in one of the bigger Dutch law firms for a while, I just felt like I wanted to press a big stop button, to earn back that much needed time to be creative! So that’s when quit my job and left to Ireland with just my guitar and backpack, where I started making money from playing gigs. It’s amazing how magic stuff always happens when you tap into your own flow.
Some trial and error later I know how I like to fill my days: either combining small parttime jobs with music or working independently fulltime. I’ve worked in a wide range of areas over the years: from lawyer, university lecturer, PA, train stewardess, sales person, PR officer to bar manager and more…You name it, I’ve done it!
The ongoing drive to create has always been the essence for me. Coming up with a crazy idea for a concert, tour, a story or a CD production and then realizing it is so rewarding! It’s like taking people on a tour to a different world. You know the little boy in the movie The Greatest Showman? That’s how I think and love to work…realizing my million dreams!
In nowadays society specialism is rewarded. Working parttime can be seen as laziness. Higher skilled jobs for 2/3 days are pretty rare to find. A pity for creatives like me who have a wide variety of interests. What are your thoughts on this? What drives you in life? How do you combine work with your passion? And what would be the soundtrack to your career?