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Relationships or freedom?

The past week relationships seemed to be a hot topic for discussion amongst quite a few people around me, both those with and without them. One who is fully settled with kids, another one desperately searching for one, seeing it as the highest goal, both not fully happy in their situation.

I’m neither one of these categories, but I still enjoy philosophizing on the topic. Also two guys tried to convince me I cannot be fully happy without a relationship. Truth is I enjoy being single. I have liked the freedom of being single for the bigger time of my life! I like spending time home alone, going on trips alone. The freedom to organise my own time, to not have any expectations of someone ‘waiting for me’. I am never bored either. And maybe I just haven’t met the person I would put all of that aside for.

In our ‘dating generation’ first obstacle is to figure out what someone is looking for, casual meetups, something more, a relationship. Maybe that’s the problem, that often we seem to expect we’re all looking for the same, while we’re not, and often we don’t know ourselves. Still we expect we are all looking to settle with kids in something long term in the end, and being single is just some sort of ‘in between situation’. But is it realistic or feasible in this era of flex jobs, flex housing, flex relationships? Definitely not for all of us. Let me just write another love song so….yeah for you yeah, the rare expection to my rules!

 

Love & lyrics

It being Valentine’s week and the air brimming with spring vibes, it would be strange not to dedicate a post to the topic of love. That’s what music is about for the larger part in the end.

My songwriting ‘career’ started at the age of 16, being madly in love with someone, leading to my first song with the most basic teenage lyrics: I’m crazy about you, so I’ll sing you a song. I love you forever, ’cause I love you the most. And some prophecies in one of the older tunes Last Time about same guy: Thousand years ahead this man will meet his wife, will he sing her that song that he sang for me?  By the way, I still speak to this person. They tried to let it go, to run away from there, they tried to forget it all…

I’ve always loved this feeling of romantic love, where you can really long deeply for someone, without having to take immediate action. It’s probably because I’ve also always really enjoyed my own company. I love spending time alone and the complete freedom to fill in my time as I want. I’m picky and it’s rare enough, but when I fall in love, I really do, and that often leads to new inspiration. Untill it ends… I hear the falling pieces, pieces of goodbyes. I hear the echo turning, turning on the light (Echoes in the Night) 

Speaking about lyrics, I also really enjoy listening to other artists’ song lyrics. I even keep a favourite song lines list! Which song lines are your favourites? I wish you a spring full of love!

Show me one man who knows his own heart
To him I shall belong (Jewel, Kiss the Flame)

 

May the Force be with you!

I have to admit I am a big Star Wars fan. I love the whole philosophy and view on society and spirituality behind it: the ideas of the light side and the dark side of the Force. With Christmas and the winter solstice coming up we all – religious or not – celebrate the return of the light in the darkness. Something you sometimes have to search for when you are having shitty weeks or the world seems to work against you. And I had a few pretty hectic weeks on all fronts myself!

Thankfully yesterday – while playing a lovely concert for a nice audience (picture below) – working together with a deeply appreciated colleague musician, I felt able to connect back to my inner Force again and I was wondering what it is exactly that does that. I think for me it’s love and inspiration and really feeling to the core of your being who you are and what you love doing. And connecting with people who have faith in you and inspire you on your own route.

I am so thankful to have travelled together on my own path with some musicians who I really admire for what they do. People who took risks to do what they love and who live very authentically. I cherish them with all my heart for that, as they have given me a lot of life force just by being who they are, and they still do!

I hope you will all have a lovely Christmas. Surround yourself with the right people. And may the Force be with you!