Relationships or freedom?
The past week relationships seemed to be a hot topic for discussion amongst quite a few people around me, both those with and without them. One who is fully settled with kids, another one desperately searching for one, seeing it as the highest goal, both not fully happy in their situation.
I’m neither one of these categories, but I still enjoy philosophizing on the topic. Also two guys tried to convince me I cannot be fully happy without a relationship. Truth is I enjoy being single. I have liked the freedom of being single for the bigger time of my life! I like spending time home alone, going on trips alone. The freedom to organise my own time, to not have any expectations of someone ‘waiting for me’. I am never bored either. And maybe I just haven’t met the person I would put all of that aside for.
In our ‘dating generation’ first obstacle is to figure out what someone is looking for, casual meetups, something more, a relationship. Maybe that’s the problem, that often we seem to expect we’re all looking for the same, while we’re not, and often we don’t know ourselves. Still we expect we are all looking to settle with kids in something long term in the end, and being single is just some sort of ‘in between situation’. But is it realistic or feasible in this era of flex jobs, flex housing, flex relationships? Definitely not for all of us. Let me just write another love song so….yeah for you yeah, the rare expection to my rules!
Love & lyrics
It being Valentine’s week and the air brimming with spring vibes, it would be strange not to dedicate a post to the topic of love. That’s what music is about for the larger part in the end.
My songwriting ‘career’ started at the age of 16, being madly in love with someone, leading to my first song with the most basic teenage lyrics: I’m crazy about you, so I’ll sing you a song. I love you forever, ’cause I love you the most. And some prophecies in one of the older tunes Last Time about same guy: Thousand years ahead this man will meet his wife, will he sing her that song that he sang for me? By the way, I still speak to this person. They tried to let it go, to run away from there, they tried to forget it all…
I’ve always loved this feeling of romantic love, where you can really long deeply for someone, without having to take immediate action. It’s probably because I’ve also always really enjoyed my own company. I love spending time alone and the complete freedom to fill in my time as I want. I’m picky and it’s rare enough, but when I fall in love, I really do, and that often leads to new inspiration. Untill it ends… I hear the falling pieces, pieces of goodbyes. I hear the echo turning, turning on the light (Echoes in the Night)
Speaking about lyrics, I also really enjoy listening to other artists’ song lyrics. I even keep a favourite song lines list! Which song lines are your favourites? I wish you a spring full of love!
Show me one man who knows his own heart
To him I shall belong (Jewel, Kiss the Flame)